Ah, welcome fellow daters. It has been awhile since my last post...I haven't been pursuing online dating in a little while. Not a break, per se, but I haven't been active either.

Has anyone out their tried "Lets Date!" - its an app that links to your facebook account. People make a short profile using facebook pictures and info. Then it is all about tagging a person "Let's Date" if the person captures your interest or "No Thanks" if they do not (and with that "no thanks" you can strike through the parts of the profile you don't like and this is supposed to help the app decide who to show you as a possible map - this part of the app is definitely broken, I will add). If you both say "Lets Date" then you can set up a date via their chat and suggest-a-date part of the app.

I really would love to see the stats on this app and know if people actually go out on dates. I mean, basically it is like going to an online bar, seeing a person from across the room, and liking what you see enough to send them a drink. I cannot imagine this works very well. I mean it works in physical bars because there is copious amounts of alcohol involved. Although, I supposed the veil of anonymity can act as "beer goggles" in a way. After all, you know what they say about the Internet and photoshop.

I cannot seriously recommend this app for anyone, I just thought it was something interesting to pass along to the masses.

Anyway......

Lesson #472:
Women may be guilty of planning for the future a little too soon, but that does not mean they want over-the-top messages that send out vibes for a future soul mate in your first letter. It is beyond creepy.

"Your smile has raptured my soul in higher places. I look forward to becoming your best friend on earth." .....Uh....thank you?

Ah, yes...well.... I mean I have a nice smile - compliments of good genes and braces....but its not a magical smile capable of taking you to higher places. And guys accuse girls about being too intense. *Rolls eyes* whew! Second, I already have a very best friend. Three of them in fact. That position in my life is filled. For Life. Sure, you may not know this, but perhaps its because you don't know me at all. When I think about this guy, I picture a poor lonely kid in the playground who attaches himself to anyone he can find just to have someone to call a friend. It screams of desperation. So, A for effort (at least he tried, right?), but EPIC FAIL for final results.

The only other person I have been talking to is slightly apathetic. Or that's how I view him anyway. His idea of conversation are one sentence messages through the website. He disappears for weeks at a time, always "traveling for work." And when I remain radio silent because I'm bored with this whole game we play, he pops up again, initiates something like a conversation, but returns to one sentence at an alarming pace. Usually short sentences too. I am waiting for messages with just a "yes." or "no." That shoe has gotta drop soon.

So why do I keep engaging? Well, since I go by the general rule of dating: "If a guy isn't pursuing you, even just in conversation...he is just not that into you." (Thank you Alex), I know he probably isn't into me. I am usually the rule, not the exception. So, I talk to him because sometimes its nice to talk to strangers. Or make a new friend. Although, at the rate we are going, our friendship will take until we are on our death beds to formulate. I like to think I am a pretty good people reader. I have my biases, its true, but I am usually not wrong. His profile reads like he is  a well-articulated, intelligent man. He makes jokes (although occasionally self-deprecating), and he has a Master Degree in really smart something or other. In fact, we did have a few conversations over I.M. that lasted for a few good hours. He can't spell for crap (my biggest pet peeve when on a computer!), but he was articulate. A little weird, like he is the nerd in class who does not quite know how to play it cool.... but it was a relatively good conversation. He indicated he wanted to work with living, breathing people in a career section of his profile. I mean, he has to have some social skills.

Anyway, I know its possible for him to converse....but instead, I know the guy who is simply simple in conversation. Not bad, but I am tired of being the chatty one. Besides, its in my nature to learn about people. That is not easy when someone does not talk! I get the feeling we will never actually meet in person. Pity, because he has amazingly green eyes...... and he does have a fantastic smile.